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This guy is 43

This is above average 43 year old man because stock pictures don't have real 43 year old average men

43 year old is age when women outnumbering men even if we count the homosexual men.

So he made the comments go Reeeereeee

I noticed strange patterns

Absolutely majority are somewhat ARTIST

So they are proving that artist foids have some I mean manny screws loose

This one is literally a groopie

So Chas makes roastie reeeeee at any age

Foids are also delusional most of them are literally looking like shit and they get angry that a guy who puts a lot more efforts in looks than them don't wants them

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Fars News reports that contact with the helicopter transporting the Iranian president has been lost. pic.twitter.com/3r1HLs9Huj

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Jesus Christ, lady, I hope your book has paragraphs!

Let's chop this up a bit.

...it's in a fantasy setting, it also has a coming of age aspect to it and takes place over about 6 years, and they age from 12-18. im thinking hard about how to write them right in their early ages, like 12-14, and i feel like i'm doing it wrong. i'm putting more focus on their character and specific personalities but i'm wondering if, as a girl, maybe i'm accidentally making them too “girly” and “soft.”

i like to make them enjoy the simple things in life, like exploring and enjoying nature, and they also like to talk about their feelings and their hurts. but is that a thing boys do? im trying to make them realistic but sometimes i forget that i was never a boy and i'll never know what it is like to be a boy. and to top it all off, it's a gay romance (it takes awhile though, so they're just friends in the beginning). it just happened to be that way, i wanted a romance that wasn't straight and i felt my story didn't fit two girls (again, there's a difference but idk what it is!)

... i just want these characters to feel real and not how i “think” they're supposed to be. i can't decide if gender is just a construct and it doesn't matter if they're a boy or a girl, or if their outlook on life IS different and they should be written differently. both? what mistakes should i avoid in writing male leads when i'm not a male?

"Have you tried adding reason and accountability?"

Nah, it's a good question. Writing any type of romance you haven't been in is obviously challenging. Writing the opposite s*x requires observation skills, reading and engaging with their work (a bitter pill for moids), and a healthy imagination. You also have to be able to set aside your preconceptions about how people should work, and your desire to fix them. For example, in this case it's not just that men usually don't talk about our feelings, or that we feel uncomfortable doing so. Often, we don't want to. How do these sorts of things affect a developing gay relationship?

But as usual, /r/writing offers reassurance instead of seriously engaging with an OP who wants real answers. Many also get bogged down making very important points about gender.

It being a fantasy setting changes the answer. Boys/girls/men/women tend to be different but a lot of that is a result of the cultural environment in which they were raised. The jury is still out in exactly what elements are genetic vs environmental. But that largely doesn't matter because environment shapes how behavioural genetics do or do not manifest anyway.

Since this is your setting, gender roles and attitudes can realistically be whatever you want. If you even wanted to aim for realism in the first place. If you want boys to be soft in your setting then they are.

It's MY SETTING, and I get to pick the gender roles!!

If you were writing about two average adolescent boys growing up in Anywhere, USA, I'd say it's pretty unlikely they'd talk deeply about their feelings. Many of us aren't even taught to be aware of our feelings. There are exceptions, of course. But typically, they'd probably mull things over in the privacy of their own heads while doing some other shared activity, like dropping bigger and bigger rocks into a lake, throwing dirt clods at a hornet's nest, or building the coolest tree fort ever.

But this is learned behavior, and gender totally is a social construct. You get to decide what being "male" means in your fantasy world, and whether or not you want to make it analogous to modern western, Judeo-Christian culture.

Actual good advice to tell a story about boys erased in real time by genderslop.

Depends on what your fictional society expects of them and if your fictional society has gender roles they are expected to conform to.

In my fictional society, sexy women with big tits are expected to throw themselves at members of !bookworms and !writecel

Of course you can write a world with different social "rules." But the farther it diverges, the less it has to say about real people in our own world, and the more it has to say about the author's own desires and hangups. Might as well say some coomer's monster girl erotica is commentary about female gender roles.

Given your inspiration, I recommend you research homosexuality and pedecrasty in Sparta and Thebes. I'd also suggest looking at Afghan's Bacha Posh to explore the notion of gender vs construct.

This isn't actually out of nowhere because the full OP mentioned "The Song of Achilles," but lmao

... When writing either gender, it's easy to make characters unbelievably confident or strong in their emotions, knowledge, or physical abilities. Making a teen male emotionally literate stops you having a weakness to their character that would otherwise ring true.

Differentiate your characters from each other. Give them flaws. Let their differences and flaws produce tension. Two guys who are just soft and sensitive and slowly start touching peepees isn't a story. Even a hack writer would make one of them the emotional one and the other the moody, silent one or whatever.

A couple more people actually gave decent advice, like here, but of course low effort "You're perfect just the way you are!" advice is upvoted while interesting stuff is near the bottom.

As a straight man, I'll never understand this trend. If the men in your gay romance act like women, why make them men at all? Reading gay erotica should be a form of escapism where you can imagine loving relationships without having to deal with women. At least, that's why I read it.

Reddit soys are already out with their predictable film-pseud defence "Duuude, this is going to be spectacularly terrible, I'll love it ".

These are the top comments.

Sounds like it has all the ingredients of a cult film, but not a financially successful one

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Darn these Reviews are all over the place, people who like it are praising it highly, and people who don't are thrashing it.

Sounds like it's gonna be fun love polarizing films

So basically Coppola lost his sanity and made an unmarketable 120 million dollar epic. I'm so hyped!

120 million dollars to create something you truly love that others absolutely hate… That's the dream baby ! Cinema is back !

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Can't wait. It's either going to be beautiful, or a beautiful disaster. Either way, it sounds worth watching.

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The reality is even the positive reviews are handling this film with kids gloves. They struggle to articulate what's good about it and are basically going "uhh...this film is ambitious and Coppola(an industry legend) took a lot of risks and we must respect it for that"

Yeah sure

!kino !fellas !anime

Florida State University published a study 2 weeks ago titled: "Does Perceived Harm Depend on the Race of the Agent?"

It found that White women felt MORE hurt by electric shocks when they thought a White person was responsible compared to when they thought a Black person was. pic.twitter.com/1xH3oKelll

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Great work, @VisitNotts!

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A leading academic no doubt thought she was making polite conversation when she mentioned her fondness of sushi to a Japanese colleague.

However, Nana Sato-Rossberg interpreted the comment as racist, accused Claire Ozanne of prejudice, then sued the School of Oriental and African Studies at the University of London.

Now the judge chairing an employment tribunal has ruled that Sato-Rossberg, a linguistics and culture professor, was “hypersensitive” and “predisposed” to finding fault in her colleague. Jillian Brown dismissed Sato-Rossberg's claim, finding that Ozanne, the former deputy director and provost at Soas, was simply making acceptable and friendly “small talk”.

Earlier the tribunal was told that Sato-Rossberg started teaching at the university in 2014 and five years later was appointed as head of the department for languages, culture and linguistics.

In 2020 Ozanne, an Oxford graduate and insect specialist who has appeared on BBC radio programmes and has since moved to Liverpool Hope University, became her manager.

The tribunal in central London heard that after their first meeting, Sato-Rossberg told a colleague that she thought Ozanne would be biased because Sato-Rossberg “was not British” and was an ethnic minority woman.

The hearing was told that Sato-Rossberg had said that “people like me — a non-white female — must constantly consider the possibility that they are treated unfairly because of gender or ethnicity”.

There was also evidence that in 2021 Ozanne told Sato-Rossberg about a sushi restaurant near her home that her family enjoyed visiting, and that the professor took exception to the comment. Sato-Rossberg told the tribunal that Ozanne “would not have said to a German person, ‘I like sausage.'”

Sato-Rossberg told the hearing that if Ozanne “wished to make conversation, we had many commonalities through our work and professional academic endeavour. But [she] chose to speak only about topics directly relevant to my race: the liking of Japanese food and that her family like it and eat sushi.”

In its report the tribunal said that in the six months following the sushi comment, Sato-Rossberg continued to complain about Ozanne. In 2022 she emailed a senior member of the university's administration accusing the deputy director of bullying and harassment. Sato-Rossberg asked for Ozanne to be replaced as her manager, claiming that she had exhibited “racist microaggression” towards her.

The university started an investigation into the claims, during which time Sato-Rossberg was promoted, but it rejected the allegations last year. In response Sato-Rossberg sued Soas for race discrimination, harassment, victimisation and unfair treatment for whistleblowing.

Rejecting the claim, the judge found that Sato-Rossberg had concluded, without evidence, that Ozanne was prejudiced against her from the start of their relationship.

Addressing the sushi remark, the judge said that Ozanne was aware that Sato-Rossberg was Japanese and took the view that she “would receive this positively. She was making small talk and trying to establish a point of shared interest.”

The judge added that Ozanne had said “nothing detrimental about Japan”.

They want automatic 7.5% gratuity on all purchases lol even the wdw sub is clowing them https://old.reddit.com/r/WaltDisneyWorld/comments/1crfg8r/unfair_and_unsafe_work_conditions_at_disney/?sort=controversial

Ownership response and more from the employees https://wdwnt.com/2024/05/gideons-bakehouse-responds-to-claims-of-poor-working-conditions/

i lived in a walkable neighborhood and it was one of the most racist, fatphobic, homophobic places i’ve ever lived. my anxiety became debilitating. i began to hate leaving my house bc of the way ppl on the street treated me. my overall health declined and i’m still recovering https://t.co/48FHlK8TWO

— chairbreaker, phd (@dr_chairbreaker) May 13, 2024

Mean reply:

https://twitter.com/Black90Prupayne/status/1790536455112032649

Zoomoids talk about how wonderful and accepting Australia is.

The more I read the more I feel a sense of pride in my country.

This guy never misses kek

!g*mers

Endless Legend is free to keep on Steam, claim it if you don't own it already!

🤫 A story shared by Jack Dorsey, the founder of Twitter, uncovered that the current leaders of Signal, an allegedly “secure” messaging app, are activists used by the US state department for regime change abroad 🥷

https://twitter.com/jack/status/1787895769183268948

https://www.city-journal.org/article/signals-katherine-maher-problem

🥸 The US government spent $3M to build Signal's encryption, and today the exact same encryption is implemented in WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, Google Messages and even Skype. It looks almost as if big tech in the US is not allowed to build its own encryption protocols that would be independent of government interference 🐕‍🦺

🕵️‍♂️ An alarming number of important people I've spoken to remarked that their “private” Signal messages had been exploited against them in US courts or media. But whenever somebody raises doubt about their encryption, Signal's typical response is “we are open source so anyone can verify that everything is all right”. That, however, is a trick 🤡

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